Those of you who follow celebrity
gossip are probably aware of Kim Kardashian’s resent marriage and then divorce,
not but 72 days after being married. For those of you who have far more important
things to do with your life then follow the on-going’s of a spoiled rich
princess; allow me to fill you in. Kim Kardashian is a socialite and is best
known for her reality television show Keeping up with the Kardashians. The show is basically all the trials and tribulations
she and her family ‘suffer through’ and all the while we sit there in shock
that 1. such a family even exists and 2. that the biggest problems they have
are mother/daughter fights that last till the next episode. In essence, it’s the
most unless, brain-cell sucking, ridiculous bullocks to watch.
I
don’t typically follow celebrity gossip, I consider myself above all that
nonsense and pay it no mind, so some of you might be wondering then how I’m
even aware of Miss Kardashian and all her ‘problems’. Well, it’s kind of hard
to avoid her when the gym plays her silly show and her face is splashed across
multiple magazine covers. I’ll glance up at the t.v. screen every few minutes
and roll my eyes as Kim whines about her latest ‘issue’ or in my peripheral
vision I’ll see a headline involving her and some new drama. But as I stated, I
don’t pay it much mind. However, sometimes celebrities do something or say
something they shouldn’t, and then they
briefly grab my attention. Kim has caught my attention and her behavior has
sent me into a right rage.
As
previously mentioned, Kim got married and then 72 days latter filed for
divorce. Allow a brief pause for that to fully sink in…..72 days of marriage
and then she ended it. When I first laid my
eyes on the image of her wedding I knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that the
wedding was fake, it was nothing more than a publicity stunt to draw attention
to herself ( again) and the whole thing was one big fat lie. That aggravated
me, yes, but then to end it after barely 3 months of marriage is sickening to me. There’s a war going on over
marriage in this country everyone’s arguing over what
the ‘true’ definition of marriage is and who should be excluded from it. According
to many, I should be excluded
from it: simply for the reason that I want to marry another woman one day.
Marriage
was something I never gave much thought to until suddenly the arguments over it
finally reached my ears and my comprehension. When I was coming to terms with
being gay I didn’t think about grown up things like marriage, I was more
interested in how to tell my folks and how to avoid my classmates from
discovering that I was ‘different’. My understanding of gay rights and the gay
liberation movement is almost completely self taught, it’s not like any school
I’ve ever attended had loads of access to it and I didn’t have enough courage
to ask around so I did my own digging to find stuff. Thank God the internet was
fairly developed by the time I was 13, because without it I would’ve felt
utterly alone. I began to read countless articles on all kinds of ‘gay’ issues,
everything from whether gay school teachers should be allowed to teach to
coming out. The question of marriage didn’t interest me until my own parents
got a divorce and that got my attention.
The
divorce was surprisingly clean and relatively easy as divorces go, it wasn’t
painless but it didn’t destroy our family or leave us broken. With time,
patience and determination we readjusted our lives a little and moved on. It
was around this time that I started to question what exactly marriage meant,
because from my young adolescent perspective it looked like something to avoid
as it would only end in heartbreak and disaster. Then the outside world
starting debating marriage and lots of people seemed to get very protective of
what they perceived as the ‘right’ kind of marriage when people who weren’t
straight wanted to have a wedding. I remembering reading an article on a gay couple that wanted a wedding and
all the backlash that came along with their polite request, I didn’t understand
what all the fuss was about. The couple seemed perfectly normal to me and I
couldn’t fathom how their union of love could ‘contaminate’ someone else’s
marriage. Yet arguments sprang up all over the media of how the sanctity of
marriage was at risk, of how allowing two people of the same sex to wed would
destroy an ancient tradition and that to allow such an abomination to occur
would surely bring the apocalypse. Well, as of yet no such horror has taken
place and gay couples are still getting married. So….what exactly is the
problem?
My problem is that now that I’m into my adulthood, I’m
starting to think more and more about the future. Normal questions of what to do after graduation and where do I want to live as well as will I ever find the ‘one’. It seems
so funny that not long ago the idea of marriage made me role my eyes and now
here I am, thinking about it more and more. I’m rather old fashioned in my view
of love, I wish to be wooed and someday find someone who complements me and
whom I can’t live without and then maybe, just maybe, have a wedding to
celebrate my joy. Sounds nice, doesn’t it? Sounds ‘normal’ right? I think so too. But certain politicians
and loud mouth religious leaders disagree; they tell me I’m not good enough,
not normal enough, not human
enough to have this experience. So, allow me to make this clear: I have no
desire nor intention to destroy anything or anyone. I just want to share the
same rights and privileges that everyone else has. I have a right to have joy,
love and happiness and no one has
the authority to tell me I don’t deserve these things.
Kim
Kardashians wedding has upset me this much for three reasons: 1. It was just for attention, for publicity and not love, 2. Not only was it fake but it counted, despite the fact it only lasted 72 days and 3. She has abused one of the most basic rights
that so many people want and are denied….that I am denied. It’s
not fair that her frivolous 10 million dollar wedding actually counts as ‘real’ whereas something I want
isn’t even viewed as being worthy
of carrying the same title.
Even though I know her ‘wedding’
wasn’t real and that it was done just to get attention, the fact remains that
her fake wedding counted. As in recognized by her state and country and no one says a word
about her clearly abusing a system that most people hold very dear. It’s almost
funny, in a completely ironic and painful sort of way, that my future wedding will be real but not recognized. That people will actually look at me and
my partner and claim that we’re ‘destroying the sanctity of marriage’ rather
than look at someone like her who
actually is. It’s funny to me that
I take marriage just as seriously as all the evangelicals who claim I’m not
worthy enough to have a wedding. I believe in protecting marriage too; from
people like her. Kim’s wedding
should not count, because it
wasn’t real or sincere to begin with, it was a media stunt and the fact that that counts over something I want someday, makes me ill. The gays aren’t
destroying marriage, straight people seem to be doing a fine job all by
themselves.
Thanks for giving me this opportunity.
Cheers to all my wicked lovelies,
xoxoxo's
your leader
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